Little Girl Wounded- Cry of the Inner Child
Posted: Sunday, August 29, 2010
by Ella Camp
"The mental scars of any type of victimization last a lifetime," says Marilyn Benoit, M.D., psychiatrist and member of the American Medical Association's National Advisory Council on Family Violence.
According to the AMA, "Assault, sexual as well as all other forms, is a silent epidemic growing at an alarming rate. "Over 61% of victims are female children." As with anything else, this has diverse degrees, which have their embryonic beginnings in some form of childhood abuse.
Owing to the fact that women have traditionally been the instigators of reform and progress, albeit until recently, coaching from the wings, theirs are the voices that scream the loudest in protest, and seek, through their care-taking nature to expose and eradicate this evil that was allowed to grow to such monstrous proportions. The anguished silent cries of the childhood victims, who have now reached adulthood, have penetrated the denial deafened ears of what was once thought an evolutionarily advanced society.
Women, for the most part, have always spearheaded this progression. In their wild grief at the falsity of this societal mask; a fresh perseverance was born. The original tree of female suppression bore its blemished tainted fruit in a society crippled by its corrupted roots. Gathering up the scattered detritus of the past, she assessed the results, diagnosed the illness, and for the umpteenth time set out to right our listing ship. With a cry that echoed off the seemingly impenetrable walls of established status-quo, she bore out the well-known truth of the axiom: "If mama's not happy; nobody's happy."
The natural-born instincts of the feminine nature to love comfort and heal, when stifled by the consequences of abuse, may render the woman to feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy. Feeling that she was not loved valued or cherished; she cannot love value or cherish herself; and in that barren fallow state, cannot offer these gifts to others in her life. Her desire to fill the void left by this abuse, can at times, take on an air of anxious desperation as she demands instant gratification of her needs from everyone around her. In the absence of her original abuser, she may begin to beat up on herself by such aberrant behavior as drug and alcohol abuse, sexual promiscuity, self-mutilation, eating to obesity or shoplifting. Nothing she does or consumes can satisfy her deep need for the missing love and acceptance she craves. In her frustration, she may strike out at others for their perceived rejection. Mental, emotional and physical abuse distorts her life; as well as the lives of the people with whom she comes in contact. She may unknowingly seek relationships with men who will reinforce and validate her feelings of rejection and persecution. When love and acceptance are offered, she may, in her rapacious need, reject it as too little. Although we all desire acceptance; hers is a void too deep to be adequately filled by anyone; in seeking revenge, she repeatedly recreates the scene of the crime, thereby insuring her own rejection.
Breaking what seems to have become a vicious cycle will require an examination and assessment of her entire life, coupled with a sincere desire and determination to heal these festering wounds.
Discovering and recognizing this wounded inner child, can be the initial step in the process of healing, a process only she can complete.
She must bring this child out into the light- examine her wounds with a now separate loftier view of empathy; listen to her story- comfort her with compassion, love and understanding.
Once she has this little girl out and on the mend- she cannot place her back within- neither can she abandon her. She may be an invalid, but she is her invalid. Carrying her in her arms, she may keep her safe and protected, and yet a constant reminder of what she has overcome. Only when she heals and separates this child from her adult self, can she live her life unencumbered by the cries of the little girl wounded.
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More commentsMy favorite line:Breaking what seems to have become a vicious cycle will require an examination and assessment of her entire life, coupled with a sincere desire and determination to heal these festering wounds.I agree. It may take a lifetime to heal such wounds, but doing so is at least possible given proper examination.Thanks for the article! -BrombergYou're quite welcome- and thank you- for your kind and judicious comment- Always- Ella
The girls can not be subjected to torture or inhuman or degrading treatment by means of assault and sexual abuse, it is a grave violation of fundamental rights of U.S. Children.If U.S. can spend a lot of money to care violations of human rights worldwide, it needs to set an appropriate penalty for such criminals in his nation to stop this violation of human rights. People need to bycot social of such animals in guise of human..Thank you so much- of course I agree-
hii make u frnd call me +919534514488My what a looong number! I"m afraid I never would remember all those numbers- my memory's not what it used to be-I thank you for reading and commenting on my article though- Always- Ella
Very nice article and touchy...Thanks for a great share...Keep it up...Not as "touchy" as it used to be though- Thank goodness- Thanks so much- Always- Ella
Very well written article Ella and on a subject that needs to be looked at and addressed. Thanks!I appreciate your reading and commenting Marijo- I value your opinion- Thanks- Always- Ella
I read this and I almost cried! That is exactly what I deal with on a daily basis. I have just never seen it put in words like that. I didn't think that a person could describe that feeling, but you did it perfectly. Your writing is absolutely amazing!!! Love You Aunt Ella
Ella, I love your penmanship. I wish I had your talent, your fluidity and sensitivity. I have to say I cried. I buried my inner child some time ago in my back garden with remnants of my incestual past. I let her go in 1991. I have a list on my desk of topics I would like to share and try show that I can pen articles about other things other than child abuse. You have given me today two topics I would like to share with. Thank you Ella, respect x
Ella, I love your penmanship. I wish I had your talent, your fluidity and sensitivity. I have to say I cried. I buried my inner child some time ago in my back garden with remanents of my incestual past. I let her go 1n 1991. I have a list on my desk of topics I would like to share and try show that I can pen articles about other things other than child abuse. You have given me today two topics I would like to share with enthusiam. Thank you Ella, respect x
Excellent article, Ella, I enjoyed reading it and I agree with you completely. Only through education can women defeat this evil in our society and our world, when they're educated on what they deserve and what is wrong and right. Only when men have been educated as well and we live in a better world where animals like the rapists and abusers of the world are raised to be humane and girls are raised to know what they deserve can we build a better world.
Thank you for sharing,
Best wishes,
-SydneyAnd thank you for partaking- education can be the savior of these victims as it is with everything.........Always- Ella
Diseases are not always of the physical body. Reading this article there is another type of disease on this world of ours. Disease of the spiritual and of course, males who have spiritually fallen while still walking around in thier ugly physical bodies. Then there seem to be more after them. On a world where there is uglyness and low energies, imbalanace it's expected to find low spiritual losers like these males who seem to not believe in life at all.
Wish we could all get together, my goodness, theres billions of us and march to world leaders asleep in their riches, gold and mansions and wake them up to the world CHAOS life is living in. I cant wait to leave this world and live once again on a balanced world where there is light, freedom and LOVE.
Awsome articleSo pleased that you enjoyed it- Thanks- Always-Ella
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